MY MUM IS SICK

This isn’t going to be a clever or intelligent or even vaguely interesting post. It will probably be full of uncorrected spelling and grammatical mistakes but right now I DON’T CARE. I CAN’T. I CAN’T EVEN THINK. This is purely a self-preservation act. I am so stressed that I could almost ask to be admitted into my local psychiatric hospital (which I hate really) but just to get some respite, get away from this world, get relief from my problems and responsibilities and most of all to get away from my feelings. I pray in desperation to my Father who is my rock in times of trouble, (Psalm 6:2  I am worn out, O Lord; have pity on me!  Give me strength; I am completely exhausted).

My Mum is very sick. She is in a hospital 45 miles from me and I have no way of getting there to see her or be able to help her. All I can do is to phone and see how she is doing every day, and wait and pray that the Lord heals her (Matthew 4:23   Jesus went all over Galilee, teaching in the synagogues, preaching the Good News about the Kingdom, and healing people who had all kinds of disease and sickness).

Mum is 85; she has double pneumonia and kidney failure and we don’t know whether she is going to make it.She has been put on a ward where there are five other elderly patients, three of whom have Alzheimers and are continually shouting and calling out. I know that they are ill too and I so feel for them but Mum is used to living quietly on her own and is so distressed by these disturbances.

I feel so powerless to be of any help to other than to be a listening ear at the end of the phone when she is well enough to speak and then it is difficult to understand her as she is so breathless when she tries to talk. Mostly, she is too poorly to chat and then I ring the nurse’s station and ask the nurse in charge of Mum’s care how she is doing. I’m finding it difficult to concentrate on anything much as Mum is constantly on my mind. I couldn’t bare to lose her. We are so close, in heart at least, not miles which means I don’t see her much.

Mum lives in an old Victorian terraced house that’s getting pretty tumbledown with age. It has four concrete steps up to the front door which I cannot access in my wheelchair which means I can no longer going into her house. If she makes it through this illness (and I pray she does), she may never be able to manage those steps again as her walking has been affected. That means she she will be unable to come out and I will be unable to go in. How will I ever see her again? Will I be able to see her again? I feel distraught.

11 thoughts on “MY MUM IS SICK

  1. oh dear sweet ellie, sending you lots of hugs at this difficult time. I hope your mum makes it through this tough time in her life. You take good care ok? You know where I am should you need an ear, feel free to email me if needed. XX

    1. Thank you for your kindness and hugs. At times like these I wish I could have wings to fly to see her while she is so sick. The doctor has said I can talk to her this evening xxx

  2. Sweet daughter, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mum. I hope that she is feeling better today. Maybe the Lord can work it out that you get to go see her, but if not, know that she knows that you love her and that she cherishes your phone conversations. Just knowing someone is there is what is most important. You are her gift! Hang in there my dear. We are here listening and loving you through your struggles. Have a wonderful day. Meghan

    1. Oh, Meghan – You are so kind – thank you for your beautiful words that mean so much to me. I am trusting God to find a way for me to go and for Him to heal my Mum. Thank you for being there for me – I really appreciate it. Hugs, Ellie xxx

    1. Thank you Mj. Two weeks on and thank the Lord, Mum is at last pulling through. I really didn’t think it was possible as she was so very ill but she now making slow progress although she still has a long way to go but as you say, it’s one day at a time; she will always need help, practical and that of our Lord but I am so very grateful that she is still here. It’s lovely to hear from you, my dear friend. Hugs, Ellie xxx

      1. I’m glad that there is better news and progress – slow and steady may be all we can see – but at least it is hopeful and better. And for that, we are indeed thankful.

        Keeping you and your Mum in my thoughts and prayers – sending you light.

        Hugs to you Ellie 🙂

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s